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[lizzie_and_ari]

My Mum still has a very hard time dealing with me and Ari. It's a huge event for me in the past year when she tells me she loves me. She used to tell me all the time. It's not that she doesn't. I suppose she's just more detached or something.

Anyway, i browse in bookshops and on the internet sometimes in the hope of a magic solution.

I just came across this, which just made my blood boil. Thought I'd share the anger.

http://www.totalcatholic.com/discuss/viewtopic.php?t=1610&highlight=gay

Oh the rage.

If anyone is sitting out there with magic solutions please let me know...

Lizziexxx

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[http://users.livejournal.com/_missfliss_/]

My favourite magic solution is not to read it.

No need for the rage. The web has people who hate you because you are a woman:
http://www.sciforums.com/showthread.php?t=52292

Because you are English:
http://www.amren.com/mtnews/archives/2005/09/brussels_paper.php

Because you have red hair:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ginger

and because you are Western (but I don't want to look up Islam extremism on Mum's computer).

Admittedly, some of those links are light-hearted, but the point stands. The internet allows people with a lot of prejudiced opinions (and everyone else) to air them as loudly and as wrongly as they like. The people you found are wrong. They are giving incorrect info (eg the sex for procreation alone thing mentioned goes directly against statements (called bulls? I may be getting my popish wrong) made by the Pope/voice of God on earth.).

A lot of people are and if you allow each instance of that to enrage you - you'll pop. If I were you, I would save my rage for:
http://www.silverringthing.com/index.html

There's nothing desperatly wrong with them. I just hate them and am airing MY prejudice. Fuckers.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_missfliss_/]

Lol - oops. Magic solutions required to fix the you and your mum thing. I thought to fix the homophobes of the internet.

Have you asked your Mum why your relationship is more strained? Asked her what you can do to help it and what you can do to resign her to your gf or - better yet - get her to know and like her?

If I were you, I would tell her that it has become a huge event for you to hear she loves you. Being secretive about your feelings won't spare hers, it will just potentially alienate you from one another more.
More a messy than a magic solution with possibilities of not being a solution, but that's what I would do.

/my 2 cents