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My Mum still has a very hard time dealing with me and Ari. It's a huge event for me in the past year when she tells me she loves me. She used to tell me all the time. It's not that she doesn't. I suppose she's just more detached or something.

Anyway, i browse in bookshops and on the internet sometimes in the hope of a magic solution.

I just came across this, which just made my blood boil. Thought I'd share the anger.

http://www.totalcatholic.com/discuss/viewtopic.php?t=1610&highlight=gay

Oh the rage.

If anyone is sitting out there with magic solutions please let me know...

Lizziexxx

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My favourite magic solution is not to read it.

No need for the rage. The web has people who hate you because you are a woman:
http://www.sciforums.com/showthread.php?t=52292

Because you are English:
http://www.amren.com/mtnews/archives/2005/09/brussels_paper.php

Because you have red hair:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ginger

and because you are Western (but I don't want to look up Islam extremism on Mum's computer).

Admittedly, some of those links are light-hearted, but the point stands. The internet allows people with a lot of prejudiced opinions (and everyone else) to air them as loudly and as wrongly as they like. The people you found are wrong. They are giving incorrect info (eg the sex for procreation alone thing mentioned goes directly against statements (called bulls? I may be getting my popish wrong) made by the Pope/voice of God on earth.).

A lot of people are and if you allow each instance of that to enrage you - you'll pop. If I were you, I would save my rage for:
http://www.silverringthing.com/index.html

There's nothing desperatly wrong with them. I just hate them and am airing MY prejudice. Fuckers.

Lol - oops. Magic solutions required to fix the you and your mum thing. I thought to fix the homophobes of the internet.

Have you asked your Mum why your relationship is more strained? Asked her what you can do to help it and what you can do to resign her to your gf or - better yet - get her to know and like her?

If I were you, I would tell her that it has become a huge event for you to hear she loves you. Being secretive about your feelings won't spare hers, it will just potentially alienate you from one another more.
More a messy than a magic solution with possibilities of not being a solution, but that's what I would do.

/my 2 cents

Thanks Fliss x

If I were you, I would tell her that it has become a huge event for you to hear she loves you.

*nodsnods*

It has become a huge strain to be here, instead of home, where we could do something about the communication aspect of making things better. I really want to get to know her mum, and I want her to get to know me, or at least get used to my presence. There is very little we can do about this while we're so far away. If we weren't embroiled with Dockside, we would have come home ages ago. The problem with being on holiday for so long is that it's such a long time to keep eachother company. Settling becomes inevitable and then it sucks you in. It won't be long till we come home, but it's still too long. My father came over a few weeks ago because of Nona dying, and was so impressed with the huge amounts of experience and money we're ammassing that he wants us to stay. Terrified as usual of my failing if I stray into unchartered territory, he has put subtle pressures on us to try to get this visa extension; and then another, and then another, and then stay forever, unhappy but rich. Which is what he's doing at the moment. He was very disappointed when I told him we were going home. So it's all been push - pull arrgh!

Anyway - Lizzie has been most touched by your words and I completely agree. It's been really good to hear from you, Fliss, in particular. It makes me miss you all horribly.

Thanks. We love you.

Ari.xxxx

I know a few people who are undergoing parental pressures at the moment...I guess we're at that age where our parent's generation would have settled down a lot more. I suppose that makes you appreciate having such good friends who know what you're going through. My parents have days where they panic and start questioning why I do so much stuff I don't get paid for. I think we sometimes just need to remind each other how fabulous we, and our futures, are.

And yeah me for an entire post with no sarcasm.

I love everyone today. Even David Blaine. Bless him.

Siany

Wow. We are fabulous, aren't we?

Lizzie just told Dave that we've coming home in August. Things are feeling so tense right now! They are in the office, discussing the future of the company without Lizzie. We are free! Free!

Ooh!

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